Making sense of living in the moment

Yesterday my boys started the school year again. It is the last first day of school at this particular one for my oldest. I get misty eyed when I think about how quickly he and his brother have grown up.

So, today I live in the moment. I feel sentimental about the days I gave birth to them; curious about what life will be like when they are all grown up and independent.

I re-read Rob Lowe’s excerpt from his book about his son leaving for college and it made me tear up quite a bit. He writes poignantly and straight from the heart.   I know those days are coming–my sons will leave the nest and venture into their lives. Though I have years until this happens, it is a reminder for me to savor the moments in our family’s day-to-day lives.

Choosing to live today’s moments mean I will stay mindful of the right now, right away, with right motives.

What I mean by this is that all we have is right now, and that’s a lot. They will come home and we will talk about the kids’ first week of school, we will move through the day preparing meals and spending time around the dinner table. These tiny moments of connection bind us together and I take snapshots in my mind so I can remember them–how little they are still in their seats, how they express themselves. Right now is the moment that I can breathe in.

Right away means that I don’t put off what is important to me and us as a family. Even though school has started we want to still check things off our summer bucket list. The list is a commitment to the kiddos that my hubby and I made to increase their life experiences and learning. Ensuring we make these plans right away holds us accountable when plans are so easily put off by competing responsibilities in life. So, we need to make room in our lives right away so we can expel our energies in the right direction.

Lastly, right motives are important in living in the moment. Childhood is fleeting, sure, but I know God has entrusted me with these two boys’ lives and I want their lives to be glorifying to Him, by the way they love and serve others. Aligning our moment-to-moment lives with right motives is an exercise of faith and the hope that we hold onto for our futures. Right motives allows us to regulate our family’s breath to the rhythms of life.

Author: regimadi

I'm an Assistant Professor of Social Work at Azusa Pacific University, an avid tea sipper and researcher on mindfulness.

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